A Hybrid funeral or memorial service is where an in-person gathering is live-streamed to remote attendees. These have become increasingly popular. But let’s be honest: they leave something to be desired.
Right off the bat I want to be very clear; I’m not saying hybrid services don’t serve a purpose. If you’re hosting an in-person event in a remote location, maybe on a beach, in the mountains, or at a family home, a livestream can be a great option. It helps distant loved ones experience the occasion. We help with these kinds of Hybrid Memorials all the time, and they can be very beautiful. If you’re looking to livestream an in person event, don’t hesitate to reach out.
But there is a critical issue with Hybrid Funerals that needs to be addressed, and it has to do with inclusivity.
The Problem with Hybrid Funerals, Memorial Services, or Celebrations of Life
The biggest issue with hybrid services is that they create two completely separate audiences. The in-person attendees and the online viewers are not having the same experience. One group is physically present, surrounded by others, hugging, laughing, crying together. The other group? They’re watching from a screen, passively observing. Perhaps they may get a quick nod from the speaker at the podium:
“We just want to acknowledge those joining us online—thank you for being here.”
And usually, that’s about the most interaction they get.
A study done in the UK found the same thing – while hybrid memorials allowed a greater audience to attend, they left virtual attendees feeling less satisfied than the in person audience.
Some quick thoughts on why Fully online Memorials might be the better overall option.
Why Fully Online Memorial Services & Celebrations of Life Are More Meaningful
Now, let’s take a look at a fully online memorial service. Here, everyone is in the same space. Attendees can turn on their microphones and cameras, type in the chat, share their thoughts in real time, and contribute to the experience instead of just watching it. Everyone is a participant.
When everyone is online, no one feels like an afterthought. Everyone has an equal opportunity to share memories, speak up, and truly participate. The grieving process isn’t about sitting quietly and watching — it’s about connection. Fully online services foster that connection in a meaningful way for remote attendees.
Separate, Not Blended
Some people argue that hybridization is the best of both worlds, but unfortunately it can leave the remote side feeling neglected. Instead of opting for an in-person event with an online audience it makes more sense to separate them into two distinct gatherings.
Many families we work with hold a fully online service first, ensuring that everyone, no matter where they are, has a chance to connect and participate. Then, those who are local gather separately for an intimate, in-person remembrance. Two beautiful experiences, rather than one experience that doesn’t quite serve anyone.
The Bottom Line
If you’re planning a memorial, you’re helping everyone honor and grieve their loved one. Hybrid services may seem like a convenient compromise, but can unintentionally leave half of your attendees disconnected. Instead, consider giving both experiences, online and in-person, the full space they deserve. Honoring a loved one should never be about just watching. It should be about being present, in a manner that allows for deep, rich connection.